Friday, August 19, 2011

Xinran Xue

Prior to returning to University to complete my BFA, I had been a Youth Care Worker for almost 20 years. I  became all to familiar with the dismal lack of support for troubled youth, youth at risk and young offenders, in spite of the rhetoric from a society that supposedly considers children as our greatest resource . Not to mention the situations of abuse and  neglect they have endured and suffered at the hands of those who were expected to love, nurture and keep them safe.

Nothing can quite prepare you to comprehend the lives of so many children throughout the world that are killed because they are not wanted, or forced to live under conditions and circumstances that we in the Western world can hardly imagine, unless we have seen it first hand.

Xinran Xue is one such person. I was very moved after hearing her own personal story and what she has undertaken to do, on behalf of Chinese children and their mothers. It is a story that resonates with any one who has an ounce of compassion for children everywhere, without a voice, and the mothers that love them and feel forced into making almost unspeakable sacrifices.

This is from the Economist

DURING the past 30 years of economic reform, China has made what is probably history’s largest single improvement to human welfare, lifting hundreds of millions out of poverty. Yet millions have also been crushed by the vast engine of Chinese growth—and it is among these that Xinran Xue (who uses only her first name) finds her stories. In previous works of oral history, she has rescued from the chaos that is modern Chinese record-keeping personal narratives of her grandparents’ generation (“China Witness”, 2008) and of women caught in China’s endless political turmoil (“The Good Women of China”, 2002). In her latest book, “Message from an Unknown Chinese Mother”, she turns to the relationship between women and their daughters in tales of loss and often unthinkable heartache.

Visiting a peasant family in Shandong, she sees a newborn baby girl snatched from her mother and dumped headfirst in the chamber pot: the head of the family demands a son and, because of the one-child policy, will not let the daughter live. Two years later, the young couple pays Xinran a visit. They, along with the rest of the young people, have left their village to look for work in cities. The mother says she had two more daughters but her father-in-law gave them away to foreigners for adoption. “Have you seen any foreigners?” she asks Xinran, fearfully. “Do you think the foreigners know how to hold my baby?”
In this section

Xinran now runs a charity in London for adopted Chinese children. But from 1989 to 1997 she presented one of China’s best-known local radio programmes, “Words on the Night Breeze”, in the southern city of Nanjing. Some narratives, such as that from Shandong, came to her because of her work. But what is astounding is how many she just happens upon, as if such tales are lying all around.

At the tiny restaurant where Xinran eats lunch, the waitress tries to kill herself twice, each time after a little girl’s birthday party. The woman is tortured by the happy faces because, thinking it her duty to produce a male heir, she had smothered her baby daughters. She survives because, as well as the bottle of agricultural fertiliser she swallowed, she drank one of washing-up liquid, thinking that any chemical in a bottle was poison. The detergent diluted the fertiliser’s fatal dose.

Cycling to work one winter’s day, Xinran has a flat tyre. The woman who repairs her bicycle turns out to have been a midwife. Under the author’s patient questioning, she reveals the pricing system of her trade: three times the normal price for a first-born son; six times more if the father is first-born, too; yet more if a daughter is “done”. The trick is to strangle the baby with the umbilical cord as it emerges, and call it stillborn.

Most of Xinran’s mothers submit stoically to the cruelties of “son preference” and the one-child policy. But a few go to extraordinary lengths to have more than one child. On a train journey she meets one of China’s so-called “extra-birth guerrilla troops”—families with daughters who leave home and move secretly from city to city, hoping to escape the birth-control regulators long enough to produce a son. The father rocks his daughter tenderly to sleep, as he explains the dangers of their life. At the next stop, Xinran sees the young girl talking to a food seller on the platform and waves goodbye, assuming the family has got off. But later she meets the father on the train: he has abandoned his beloved daughter to strangers because his wife is expecting another child and the family cannot hide more than one. She was the fourth daughter they had given up.

One might perhaps object that some of Xinran’s stories are not as typical as she implies: she blames the unflinching “son preference” of traditional Confucian culture for the families’ decisions to abandon or kill their daughters. But, in fact, the number of “missing girls” is highest in richer, better-educated provinces: prenatal ultrasound scans and selective abortion have proved even deadlier to girls than the cruel dictates of village elders. But this is quibbling. The core of “Message from an Unknown Chinese Mother” is the individual stories of women who have lost their daughters. One would have to have a heart of stone not to be moved by them.


Indigene said...

I posted your blog and this article on FB. People forget that this still goes on. Women causes and issues are near and dear to my heart. Thank you for posting this!

Unknown said...

Oh thank you very much for for doing that Indigene.

Yes woman's issues, well there everyone's issue aren't they. Growing up through the woman's movement and in a single parent home from the age of 13 on I saw how my mother worked so hard and loved her children. I was so blessed to have such a mother.

It breaks my heart to think of those who have never experience the love of a mother or any loving parent and especially young girls. She was my heroine and those like Xinran are heroines and thrive not in spite of what they have endured but because of, and this is what gives the world hope. Thank you for your comment Indigene.